I prefer not braided. Both for cables and hair. More of a ponytail kinda guy myself.

Things about this post:

1. It’s concise, and address the initial post
2. I’ve never heard the terms ‘toppy’ or ‘femme’ used in this way, but I’m happy that I have now.
3. Is ‘Butch’ PC these days? I’m old and can’t keep track.
4. It has the feeling of being written by a professional Lesbian scientist on their lunch break at work.
5. I love it.

You sound like an alien on its first trip to earth trying to “blend in”